I recieved an email….
I thought the day you “hung out” and refused to do shows was flippin’ awesome. Your by far the most real person on this site.
I’m a psych major, and as such am curious about everything. I was wondering if I could ask you some questions about how this site has affected you personally, since you were so upfront about it.
My reply:
NO problem sweetie, I have an idea. You ask the questions, send them to me via email and I answer them and post them on my site. I think ppl would like to know too. What say you?
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Ok, you mentioned the other day you get “de-sensitized”. Does that mean that masturbation is less physically pleasurable? Or does it not excite you mentally?
When I say I get de-sensitized especially after a show, that means that I’m “over-stimulated” physically. In short, my erogenous zones are feeling a little numb. I’m very sensitive both physically and mentally. The slightest touch or the right words can throw me into ecstasy but sometimes I overdo it and my body doesn’t respond as it should. The mental excitement is always there but sometimes my body has to catch up.
I’m sure your placed in some uncomfortable situations. How do you deal with that, and what sort of things were you uncomfortable with when you joined that don’t phase you now?
Nothing really phases me as I’m the type of girl that loves to try new things at least once just to see how it feels. I will never allow myself to be placed in and uncomfortable situation in my line of work. The moment I feel uncomfortable is the moment I stop and politely apologize and decline the request, sometimes not so politely lol. But I do have an interesting story. I remember when I first started camming I had a member ask me to take all of his money. I’ve never heard of Financial Domination and couldn’t fathom actually making someone go broke for me. I thought to myself, “okay, let me try this” and failed miserably. “Are you sure you want me to take all your money?”, “I feel bad to have you go broke and starve just for me”, “Sorry, I don’t think I can do this, why don’t you donate the money instead?” I felt so guilty! That was 5 years ago. Now, I’m laughing my ass off at how worried I was for the guy and his money. After some research on the topic, I realized that this was an actual fetish! It really exists! Heck, if I’m not going to do this, someone else will! You want to give me your money? You want to go broke for me? Click EXCLUSIVE!
What made you want to get into this line of work? Do you enjoy it?
Nothing and no one made me get into this line of work. I just actually fell upon it one day while on the internet (still not sure how I got there really) and decided to try it. I thought it was a scam but like I said before, I’ll try anything once. Well, lo and behold! I loved it! The rest is history. You can follow my journey here: http://sandi-squirts.net/main/today-5-years-ago-anniversary-of-camming/
How do people react when you tell them what you do? Do you ever find it embarrassing to tell people in real life? Has it changed how you act in public (for example, after I masturbate I feel like everyone knows I just did- do you feel like that at all?)
90% of the people are taken aback and don’t really approve of what I do. They call me a dirty whore. I’m not embarassed to tell people what I do but I don’t walk around with a banner telling everyone either. I use the “need to know basis” when considering telling people what I do. Is it really necessary? Here is a more in depth rant at how it has affected my personal life. http://sandi-squirts.net/main/rant-guys-driving-me-crazy-beginning-to-feel-something-is-wrong-with-me/ It has not changed the way I act in public and I’ve never felt ashamed that I masturbate. I do it all the time. I did it today as a matter of fact.
What do you prefer to be called professionally (cam girl, personal performer, etc.)?
Geisha.
What kind of music do you like ? How does that compare to the music you play in your room (and how does music in general help out your room/shows.)
I love all genres of music. I have eclectic tastes. What you hear in my room is the type of music I feel like listening to at that time. Music creates an atmosphere and sometimes I like to incorporate it into my shows because I “feel” the music. The other day I had a pretty long show with a member and the soft, sensual sounds coming out of my speakers combined with his words created an amazing atmosphere and connection which made my climax out of this world!
Do you enjoy your job more now or when you started? How was starting out? I imagine the learning curb was pretty steep (being that there’s not exactly a “how-to” guide or director to speak of)
Great question! I think I enjoyed my work more when I first started because everything was so new to me. Trying different things was very exciting and I still look for that “something something” that I’ve never experienced online. I bore easily, especially when someone asks me to spread em and fuck myself until I cum. What’s that? The difference between now and then is that NOW, I choose my shows. I use to want to do every show or request asked of me but not today. I like my shows to be creative, original, intriguing, kinky or just make a connection with someone. I have no problems kicking people out of my room if I don’t feel some sort of connection.
What types of considerations go into choosing rates for your room? How much of your rates do you get (both gold and norm) and how much go to the site? Do you sometimes resent the site taking a cut from everything you’ve earned?
Depending on my mood, if I’m feeling generous, I may lower my price but I’m worth every penny and I’m not saying that to be conceited. I’m saying this because I know what I have to offer and after 5 years of doing this and the many rave reviews I’ve received, no one has ever been disappointed. I have a variety of fans from students to businessmen. Some can’t afford me which is understandable and I usually offer group shows for those that don’t have the budget to visit me one on one. I just recently moved from another camming site where I was able to offer group shows for my fans and this new site I’m on is working on possibly having the same kind of set up. We’ll just have to wait and see if it comes to fruition.
At the other site I was working , I was getting a 50-50 cut on my earnings. This new site, I recieve 35% of my total earnings and I do not resent the fact that this site keeps 65%. They are not just pocketing the money they make from me and all the other girls, they actually buy traffic and spend alot on advertising and they have a great support team. I just recently quit the “other site” and the difference between these two sites: I rather get 35% of something than 50% of nothing.
I’ve heard that cam performers build up a base of regular customers. How do your interactions change with them as opposed to someone who’s new or infrequent?
I treat everyone the same, however if you are rude to me I don’t care if you have a million dollars to spend, I will ignore you. I have built up a great fan base and to be honest, I’ve known them for 5 years and when I see them in my room I give them priority. Even if they don’t spend any money, they are my friends, people whom I care about, people that have given me some of the best memories online and I hold them dear to my heart. In this business there are those that will come and go and those that will follow you wherever you go. If I see my fan’s face in the crowd, I will recognize them and acknowledge them first and people have to understand that I have a history with them. Spend 5 years with me and see what I mean.
How do you view your customers? I feel like some models really look forward to seeing them, and others look down on them and are just out to get their money.
See above post.
Do you feel your customer’s appreciate you, or do they only see you as a “sex goddess” or “disposable barbie”. The other day you said there’s more to you than just a cam girl; is that the impression many people give you?
I’m so very glad that you actually listen to me when I speak! Wow, I’m impressed! Yes, at times I do feel disposable which is probably normal in this line of business depending on why these customers come to this site. There are a few that actually want to get to know me for me and spend time with me without any nudity whatsoever. I’ve met many like this over the years and they make me feel human. That’s why I keep coming back.
How much does it suck having to get dressed over and over for short shows? Does it annoy you sometimes when people do short shows? What’s the cutoff for a “short” show? What’s normal?
I really enjoy your questions! Yes it really “sucks” to get dressed over and over again for short shows and can get annoying but this is the business and the show must go on. The average show is 7 mins but I’ve been with members in show for over 8 hours. There is no norm.
During just the short time I spent in your room, I realized there is a great deal of rudeness directed at you (like some people don’t care what you think or look down on you). How do you deal with that in your room, and how does it affect you personally?
Depending on my mood once again, I usually shrug it off and ignore them or fight back lol. It keeps my job interesting and I think I’ve developed a pretty thick skin when dealing with those types. If I’m in a good mood, I’ll play around with it a little, if I’m in a bad mood I turn into a BIATCH! It doesn’t personally affect me. You can’t be everything to everyone all the time. Some people will hate me, some will love me, here’s a great quote to finish off what I’m trying to say: Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.
John Wooden
What do you see in your future? Do you feel like this is something you can do long-term, or do you have something else planned? Is there a stigma against people who are not exactly “spring chickens” performing on cams? Does it affect their business greatly (obviously, it’s just speculation from you unless you know someone like that ;P)
5 years and still going strong! Well, kind of lol. I’m still enjoying what I do and can see myself doing this for ummmmmm, another 5 years? Anyone can do this from 18 year old to 70 year olds. There is a market for all ages but I’m sure it does affect business depending on what age category you are in.
I realize there’s enough questions to fill a book there, but so little is known by anyone and those are the questions (truthfully, far more than I originally realized lol) that I have. You undoubtedly already know this, but feel free to not answer anything that would hurt your business or get you in trouble with the site. The last thing I would want is you to catch shit for my curiosity. Make your responses as long as you want or as short; they are about YOU, so express anything you wish, and don’t feel rushed.
Thank you again, this is a ton and I consider a great personal favor ;P
It was a pleasure answering your questions and I’m glad you asked them. Feel free to ask me more questions in the future. I’m looking forward to them! This is a great way to have others understand me and the business. Thanks!
Okay my turn to plug my business lol.
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